The REAL risk in not nurturing your child’s EARLY interests, Ep. 162

Also in this episode, 3-steps to nurturing even interests that might require screen time or trips to the ER!

So many moms don’t attach a value to doing something that fascinates them in the same way that they see a value in uncovering what might fascinate their kids.

11 years of coaching and in this episode, I share how I’m seeing this play out both as a mom and as a coach to moms who want to uncover their purpose and be brave enough to pursue it with all of their might.

Ultimately, there is value in BOTH you doing something that fascinates YOU and in you uncovering and being HONEST about what might fascinate your KIDS…if neither is considered then everyone loses; I’ve what happens when interests are stomped on and it’s ugly! Definitely, tune in to this week’s warning about what happens once we start ignoring our kid’s REAL interests (or our own).

The context for why this topic is URGENT and important for all parents

What I’ve seen from the most successful corporate executives is this…tune in

A personal example in my home that expresses I can be short-sighted too

Origami>NASA Solar Panels…who knows? Listen in…

Poll, I ran recently with a sample interest that got LinkedIn members talking

Skateboarding vs. Less Risky Options (Soccer) This was news to me….see stats:

Videogaming vs. Physical options (Screen time research)

Then what you can do MOM or DAD to truly nurture your kid’s interests

Listen to their interests without judgment

Acknowledge their interests as viable

Expose them to the industry in all sorts of ways (hint: we need to use our imagination!)

Your turn: what is your child interested in? Leave them in the comments here or join the conversation on Substack:

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Related Substack Articles:

What if your 11-year-old wants to become an online video gamer? 14 non-to-minimal screen alternative ideas for raising an online video gamer (or how to nurture your kid’s interests in a mommy-friendly way)

See Online Gamer Article

How To Uncover Your Kid’s Real Interests Before They Are Altered By Modern Society – If you have a 6-12-year-old, then I’ve included 3 questions you can ask them this weekend –

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Melissa helps movers and shakers up to those in the corner office rediscover what makes them unique so that they can land their dream job in a forward-thinking company where their ideas are listened to, valued, and supported.

She brings insights from having worked in 16-business units (including Human Resources) in NY, Paris, and London. Additionally, in her former corporate career, she worked on billion-dollar brands for P&G and on IBM for Ogilvy & Mather. Later, as the founder and CEO of Career Outcomes Matter, Melissa created a 3-step “sellable strengths” process which has been the centerpiece of her clients' results.

Melissa applies this method consistently to support mid-level professionals up to the c-suite to get into Fortune Global 500 organizations and agencies. She studied Psychology at NYU and earned her MBA from the Tuck School of Business at Dartmouth.

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