Changing Your Relationship with Money with Crazy Money Podcast Host Paul Ollinger, Episode 163

Does having enough money in your bank quench your thirst for fulfillment? In this episode, Paul Ollinger joins us for some money talk – making money, saving money, our relationship with money, and finding the thing that really fulfills us. Paul also dives into three questions to ask yourself to help you figure out how to spend your time.

Paul Ollinger is a writer, comedian, and podcaster. After “retiring” at 42 and finding himself bored out of his mind, Paul started the Crazy Money podcast to explore the connection between money, happiness, work, and meaning. In 1:1 conversations with some of the world’s most interesting people, Paul helps uncover the true sources of happiness in life and what money, success, and fame can (and can’t) do for us. Previous interviewees include prominent authors, academics, celebrities, and winners of the Nobel Prize, Heisman Trophy, and Olympic gold medals. 

Paul is also a nationally-touring comedian who has opened for Daniel Tosh, Dave Attell, and Chelsea Handler. He has also opened four major music acts, including Styx and Collective Soul. In 2019, Paul headlined the legendary Carolines on Broadway in New York City as part of their Breakout Artist Series. A Finalist at the Boston and San Diego Comedy Festivals, Paul plays comedy clubs, country clubs, and corporate events all over North America. He lives in Atlanta with his wife and two tween children. 

This episode is perfect for you if you’re having a hard time figuring out what you want to be now that you’re a mom. Maybe you’re no longer working for someone, you’re no longer part of a team corporate, or you no longer have a perfectly laid-out career. Hopefully, you will have a better understanding of the role of money in your life and have clarity about the things that matter the most to you.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Does money fulfill us?
  • What role does our identity play?
  • The importance of knowing how you fill your day if you had all the money you needed
  • What if you need other days to challenge yourself other than being a parent?
  • Where does belongingness come into all of this if you are no longer working for someone or as part of a team?
  • Money is quantifiable and tends to be overemphasized because it can be counted but there are other important factors related to feeling fulfilled
  • Living within our means vs. prioritizing what brings us joy especially if a recession is looming
  • What are money scripts?
  • Why he thinks comedy is a reflection of a risk-averse mindset
  • Here’s what you get when you chase your dream – and how trying is your trophy, not guaranteed success
  • When did Paul realize that he had to express himself authentically vs. stay on the path of money?
  • Now what? Finding meaning after you’ve cashed out.
  • 3 questions to uncover your passion
  • How to start over again in your 40s, 50s, and beyond
  • How frugality serves as your safety net

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Similar Resources:

How to Overcome Money Anxiety and Become a Money Magnet by Ken Honda, Author of Happy Money, Episode 155

Find Your Purpose Besides Being A Mom (This Is An Open Call For 50 Moms To Become Beta Readers Too), Episode 148

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