The Art of Delegation: Overcoming the Fear of Asking for Help, Episode 176

In episode 176, Melissa discusses the art of delegation and how it can be the key to achieving balance and success in business and life. She shares insights from a survey conducted with moms in business, highlighting the desire for balance and the difficulty many face in being resourceful for themselves and asking for help. The episode addresses the hesitation, resistance, and unwillingness to delegate tasks to others and offers solutions, including bartering skills and creativity to find a solution that doesn’t always involve money. Send Melissa a DM on Instagram @melissallarena if you have a hard time asking for help. You are not alone! Just type DELEGATE. I have a quick read-through of a chapter focused on precisely helping you ask the right questions to get the help you need and do so with courage! Want this free sample chapter on the art of asking for help?

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## Delegate for balance and success.
As a mom in business, achieving balance and success can feel like an impossible task. We want to be able to spend quality time with our families, while also making sure our businesses are running smoothly. However, the art of delegation can be the key to unlocking this balance.

Delegation is the process of entrusting a task to someone else. This could be a family member, a colleague, or even someone in another country. By delegating, we can free up our time to focus on the tasks that are most important to us.

In a recent survey, I spoke to many moms in business and found that they all desired balance. But what was standing in their way was their inability to be resourceful and ask for help. Many felt hesitation and resistance when it came to delegating tasks.

It’s important to remember that delegating doesn’t have to be a money conversation. You can barter your skills and talents in exchange for someone else’s. This is a great way to get the help you need without having to spend money.

If you find yourself constantly talking to friends and family about your struggles as a mom and business owner, it could be a sign that delegation is the biggest issue getting in your way. Have you asked your partner to help out, or are you relying on family members who may not have the skills you need? Are you secretly waiting until the kids go to college to feel like you can be productive in your business? All of these are clues that delegation is something that needs to be addressed.

Delegating can be the key to unlocking balance and success. It’s important to remember that you can barter your skills and talents, and that asking for help is not something to be afraid of. By delegating tasks, you can free up your time to focus on the things that matter most.

## Delegate to improve balance.
Delegation can be a great way to improve balance in your life. For example, if you are a busy mom, you can delegate some of the household tasks to your children, such as taking out the trash or doing the dishes. This will give you more time to spend with your family or to pursue your own interests. Delegation can also help you achieve balance in your work life. If you are running a business, you can delegate tasks such as customer service, bookkeeping, or marketing to free up your time to focus on more important tasks.

It is also important to remember that delegation can be used to help others. By delegating tasks to other people, you can help them gain valuable skills and experience. For example, if you are a busy mom, you can delegate some of the household tasks to your children. This will not only help you achieve balance in your own life, but it will also help your children learn important life skills.

Delegation can also help you prioritize your time and energy. By delegating tasks, you can focus on the things that are most important to you and avoid wasting time on tasks that are not essential. This will help you achieve balance in your life and make sure that you are able to focus on the things that matter most.

Delegation can be a great way to improve balance in your life. By delegating tasks, you can free up your time to focus on the things that matter most to you and help others gain valuable skills and experience. It is important to remember that delegating is not something to be afraid of, and it can be a great way to achieve balance in your life.

## Delegate to succeed.
As a mother of twins, I found myself struggling to balance my ambition to exclusively nurse my identical twins and my need to delegate. I made a commitment to myself to invest in childcare for my eldest child, knowing that I would need the help to keep my family functioning. I had to have the confidence to know that I could recoup those expenses, even if it meant putting in extra effort.

It is important to ask yourself if your dream is worthwhile when considering delegation. Is the inability to ask for help preventing you from achieving the success you want? Is it preventing you from sleeping at night? If the answer is yes, delegation may be the answer.

It is important to remember that delegation does not have to be expensive. You can find ways to delegate tasks without breaking the bank. You can also barter services to get the help you need.

Delegation is essential to achieving balance in your life. It can be a great way to free up your time and focus on the things that matter most to you. It can also help you gain valuable skills and experience. Remember to ask yourself if your dream is worthwhile and take the steps necessary to delegate tasks and succeed.

## Achieve wellness through support.
When it comes to achieving wellness, support is key. Having a strong support system can be invaluable in providing you with the resources and encouragement you need to reach your goals. It can also help to provide you with a sense of safety and security. Knowing that you have someone to turn to in times of need can be a great source of strength.

It is important to recognize that achieving wellness is not a one-time event. It is an ongoing journey and requires ongoing effort. Taking the time to find the right support system can make a huge difference in your journey. Whether it is a friend, family member, or mentor, having someone who can offer guidance and understanding can be incredibly helpful.

It is also important to remember that achieving wellness is a personal journey. Everyone is different and will have different needs and goals. It is important to recognize that what works for one person may not work for another. It is important to take the time to find the right support system for you and your individual needs.

Finally, staying tuned is important. That means taking the time to stay informed and connected to the support system that is in place. This could mean attending events or meetings, or simply taking the time to check in with your support system on a regular basis. By staying tuned, you can ensure that you are receiving the support and resources you need to reach your goals.

Achieving wellness is an ongoing journey, and it is important to remember that having the right support system in place can make a huge difference. Taking the time to find the right support system, and staying tuned to it, can help you achieve your goals and live a life of balance and wellness.

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Melissa helps movers and shakers up to those in the corner office rediscover what makes them unique so that they can land their dream job in a forward-thinking company where their ideas are listened to, valued, and supported.

She brings insights from having worked in 16-business units (including Human Resources) in NY, Paris, and London. Additionally, in her former corporate career, she worked on billion-dollar brands for P&G and on IBM for Ogilvy & Mather. Later, as the founder and CEO of Career Outcomes Matter, Melissa created a 3-step “sellable strengths” process which has been the centerpiece of her clients' results.

Melissa applies this method consistently to support mid-level professionals up to the c-suite to get into Fortune Global 500 organizations and agencies. She studied Psychology at NYU and earned her MBA from the Tuck School of Business at Dartmouth.

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