Finding Balance in a Busy Life with Author Ingrid J. Adams, Episode 177

What does work-time balance even look like? Can you tell me right now who you know who is achieving such a blissed-out state? Who is actually juggling and keeping everything off the ground? I want to know and that’s why I wanted to bring this week’s podcast guest. Ingrid J Adams.  She has four kids. Lives in Manly Australia. Ingrid’s husband encouraged HER to find something that she was passionate about when their kids went to school. She also just published a book! 

This is not about perfection or an unrealistic goal post for superb balance. It’s about turning mom guilt on its head to publish your book or launch your business and about finding a way to teach your kids the lessons you’ve learned throughout life. 

I want to hear from you! Listen in and DM on Instagram @melissallarena. Is balance within your reach or do you think it’s slightly BS? Maybe we just need to enjoy the pockets of time in the day when we feel we are in balance? Tell me. I want to know!

Ingrid J. Adams is the author of Descended, an epic love story steeped in fantasy, the first in a four-book series for the upper YA market. It took Ingrid a long time to realize her unattainably crazy dream of being a writer was in fact both attainable and sane; but between then and now, she’s earnt degrees in business tourism, journalism, kinesiology and nutrition, studied psychotherapy, and worked in media, then as a therapist. 

She also had a couple of years off to lie in bed and stare at the ceiling after being diagnosed with an incurable disease she managed to cure herself of by going way outside the box, a disease she probably learned more from than all her degrees put together. Today, she lives in chaos by the beach in Manly in Australia with her four beautiful boys (five if you count her husband), and her cuddle-hunting cavoodle pup. She’s a massive fan of travel, yoga, meditation, farmer’s markets, cooking (and eating), ocean-swimming, and escaping into fictional worlds of her own and others’ creation. 

Ingrid’s story reminds us that balance is not about perfection or an unrealistic goal post, but about finding pockets of time in the day when we can feel in balance. Her journey shows the importance of pursuing one’s passions, even amidst the busyness of family life. Through her own experiences, Ingrid has learned that turning mom guilt on its head can lead to achieving seemingly unattainable goals. We hope this episode has inspired you to reflect on what balance means to you and to find joy in the little moments of peace in your day. 

In this episode, you will these ideas expressed:

  • Why is finding something for yourself important?
  • Searching for life’s answers to big questions and how writing can shed light on them 
  • Starting your writing journey and how to think about writing for your kids eventually
  • Offering comfort to kids with anxiety
  • Finding the time to write after family time and juggling weekends
  • The motivation to publish a book or launch a business might be found in the guilt
  • What if you don’t find something just for you?
  • How kids see moms happily blissed out following their passion
  • What’s the key to making time for your partner?
  • Is a book like a baby?
  • How an illness early on in life motivated Ingrid to write her book 
  • The dynamics in high school when fitting in was everything
  • Being weird is interesting! Use your uniqueness to your advantage
  • Find pockets of perfection in your day and relish them
  • Deciding to become who you wish to do and that includes being a calm book author in the middle of a busy day with four kids in tow!
  • The importance of saying no 
  • The importance of teaching kids through showing, not telling

SHARE this episode with a mom founder, entrepreneur, or creator, who is a mom who wants to understand how other moms find work/time balance.

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Theo Travers, Writer and Executive Producer on Showtime’s Billions, Talks About Hollywood Misconceptions and Making Scary Choices, Episode 37 

Find Your Purpose Besides Being A Mom (This Is An Open Call For 50 Moms To Become Beta Readers Too), Episode 148 

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