Your original dream is being lived by someone else


In Don’t Let the Pigeon Drive the Bus, the bus conductor is living the bird’s biggest dream. It really doesn’t matter who is living out your dream. You are bothered by the fact that someone else had the vision and courage to go for it. What you might not realize is that they too had to make tough choices along the way to get what you wanted — and who knows, we can’t always assume it was their original dream either.

Is life really that linear?

So many of us want to be planners, but the truth is that things sometimes happen beyond our control. It’s your choice to get your feathers ruffled up over seeing someone else where you expected to be at this stage in life. Ideally, when you see someone else living your dream, you should use them as your models. However, as was the case in Don’t Let the Pigeon Drive the Bus, toward the end of the tale the pigeon was so lost in himself following his frustration that precisely when the conductor said his goodbyes, he had his head down. That’s called a missed opportunity. My missed opportunity was when I worked for a top advertising agency in account management instead of as a creative. I didn’t even try to get into copywriting. Instead, I pursued my MBA.

We let our emotions override our opportunities to take smart actions. It’s hard to think clearly when there are clouds in your head.


1. What opportunities exist within your reach that will give you a taste of your dream?

2. In what ways, can you fabricate your own opportunity today?

Share your answers in the comments below.

I want to help you fulfill your dream and will review all comments to offer up ideas to kick-start your individual journey.


Next Step: Your original dream is not lost — you are just hiding from it!

Melissa Llarena

Melissa helps movers and shakers up to those in the corner office rediscover what makes them unique so that they can land their dream job in a forward-thinking company where their ideas are listened to, valued, and supported.

She brings insights from having worked in 16-business units (including Human Resources) in NY, Paris, and London. Additionally, in her former corporate career, she worked on billion-dollar brands for P&G and on IBM for Ogilvy & Mather. Later, as the founder and CEO of Career Outcomes Matter, Melissa created a 3-step “sellable strengths” process which has been the centerpiece of her clients' results.

Melissa applies this method consistently to support mid-level professionals up to the c-suite to get into Fortune Global 500 organizations and agencies. She studied Psychology at NYU and earned her MBA from the Tuck School of Business at Dartmouth.

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