Mission Possible: How to Thrive As a Working Mother of Young Children

r-TWIN-MOMS-GIVE-BIRTH-large570The statistics for women are alarming and indicate that our measurement of success needs to change. As I continued reading [Thrive, by Arianna Huffington] while nursing my twins and watching my toddler, I thought about whether someone like me could find the time to actually thrive now, not just when my kids are in school full-time. I’m a working mother with my own career coaching business and three boys under the age of 4 at home. The idea of focusing on my well-being, let alone sitting down for more than 30 seconds, initially felt impossible. I wanted everything at home to be under control while also stopping at almost nothing to delight my clients with white glove service. However, I’ve learned this mindset is hurting, not helping, me.

The only way for me to thrive today — when my toddler feels the need to continuously test my limits — is to redefine how I view success. Generally we reflect and reconsider aspirations on the cusp of a big change such as a major move, death or birth. I have experienced all three in the last several months and have learned that life is fluid, and if you live it rigidly, you will drive yourself into the ground. The key to thriving with a toddler and twins is to prioritize how I want to measure success.

Here are four takeaways I’ve realized are crucial for thriving, especially for new moms who feel as though they have too much on their plates. It takes some maneuvering but it is possible to live a third metric life.

Check out the rest of my Huffington Post Article via this link: http://huff.to/1z7B5es

Melissa Llarena

Melissa Llarena is an author, imagination coach, consultant, speaker, and contributor to ForbesWomen articles that have garnered 4 million + views. She is also the host of Unimaginable Wellness, the podcast for entrepreneurs, founders, and creators who are also moms. Featured guests include GaryVee and Beth Comstock. Melissa holds a psychology degree from New York University, an MBA from the Tuck School of Business at Dartmouth, and a Transformational Coaching Academy certificate. She is training to become a meditation practitioner. Melissa lives in Austin, Texas, with her husband and three sons. Visit www.fertileideas.com.

2 Comments

  1. April on September 18, 2014 at 1:49 pm

    Hello
    I am also a mother of twins, working and going to school full-time. Let me tell you its not easy and of course tiring. Every day, is the same routine. I am glad for Sabbath, a day where I can actually spend a quality time with God and family. Then the week start again, my week start on Sunday, usually laundry day and homework day. I am juggling between satisfying my career and be a mom.

    • Melissa on September 24, 2014 at 7:22 am

      Hi April. I hear you. As a mom of a toddler and twin boys – everything takes longer and is more complicated because we care. Let me know if you need guidance on finding and securing a job that is better suited for moms. Email me at melissa@melissallarena.com

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