Is It Imposter Syndrome, That’s Holding You Back? Find Out, Episode 174

This is episode 174. We are going to talk about imposter syndrome especially amongst moms in business. At this point in my coaching career, I want to ensure that I am bringing my superpower of an explosive imagination to my ideal clients and through the grace of God and the fortitude with which I’ve been writing my book the answer that I’ve heard whispered in my ear over and over has been moms…specifically moms with businesses. So I’ve decided and made a declaration that I am officially on a mission to empower, embolden, and encourage 1-million-plus moms with a business in the next five years. Now in the words of Oprah, what would be the absolute best next possible step when you have an idea?

In my case, it has been to talk to moms with businesses. I’ve begun to do this and something came up just this week that I want to address for you my listeners. It’s the signs that imposter syndrome is hurting your income and why this needs to stop especially amongst moms in business, these are three I’ve heard and that it would honestly be selfish of me to withhold from you.

-delayed invoicing…permission to invoice
-not negotiating with your voice…needing an alter ego
-purchasing productivity systems rather than saying NO

The consequences include:

-high blood pressure
-massive anxiety

In my book called Life After Blowouts: Every Mom’s Guide To Go From Imagination To Impact I featured a podcast guest Lisa Messenger who turned around her own imposter syndrome into an asset – do you have a copy YET of my free chapter? If not then run don’t walk to

You will 100% percent want to snag the free chapter and be on my newsletter where I will feature book launch updates and opportunities for moms in business.

The key to Lisa’s turnaround has been MASSIVE SELF-AWARENESS….and in that chapter I revealed and have become self-aware myself that I’ve personally battled with imposter syndrome myself back when I was not yet a mom here is what happened to me or I did to myself that I also decided to share in my book

-Copywriter assignment
-Tribeca paving the ground
-Never turned it in

Answer these questions yourself to uncover whether imposter syndrome is holding you back:

-Have I ever avoided raising my rates because I didn’t think I was credentialed enough?
-Have I ever avoid charging someone full price because I feared that they would think I’m too full of myself?
-Have you ever had to psyche yourself into calling yourself another name or being a guy because the woman you are is too mousy or something negative?
-Have you ever taken on more responsibilities and just assumed you needed to get better at productivity?

-Someone toggling motherhood and entrepreneurship at the same pace as your competitors had to work to keep your spot in the market?

If you answered YES to any of these questions then I want to invite YOU today to make a decision that can change your life for the better if you just trust me….

I want to hear your story
I want to know what you are struggling with
I want to understand how imposter syndrome has taken away your money, opportunities, time, networking moments, and joy especially in the last few years

Do this by DM-ing today @melissallarena

I want to be sure that anyone who is listening to this week’s episode has an opportunity to speak with me if you or someone you know has ever left imposter syndrome stop them from entrepreneurial success and that’s triple if you are a mom.

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For moms like me, the pandemic was an opportunity to re-evaluate and course-correct things in our lives we weren’t thrilled with. Coming out of this period, sluggish yet motivated, so many of us can use this book to help us wake up! If you’re looking to refresh, reenergize, and yes, reimagine a better version of your life, this book is for you. I loved the hilarious, yet poignant stories about motherhood today and the window into the world of those who’ve gone for it – and did it. – Macollvie Neel, Brooklyn, NY

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The words: imagination, play and fun are not the usual things we as mothers think of when wondering how to get a grip back on our career and I believe it provides a really fresh take and lots of food for thought for mothers reading it. I think that the tone is so energetic and fresh that it is why I would pick it up. – Latina Mom/Positive Psychology Coach

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In her book, Melissa shows us that motherhood does not have to be a pause or an end of your pre-child self. With guidance from her podcast guests, she encourages us to think big, find what lights us up, think big, and move towards our goals with the steps that fit the reality of our lives as they are today. In doing so we honor and inspire our child(ren), and our own inner child. – Single Mom To A 12-Year Old Boy

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Melissa Llarena

Melissa helps movers and shakers up to those in the corner office rediscover what makes them unique so that they can land their dream job in a forward-thinking company where their ideas are listened to, valued, and supported.

She brings insights from having worked in 16-business units (including Human Resources) in NY, Paris, and London. Additionally, in her former corporate career, she worked on billion-dollar brands for P&G and on IBM for Ogilvy & Mather. Later, as the founder and CEO of Career Outcomes Matter, Melissa created a 3-step “sellable strengths” process which has been the centerpiece of her clients' results.

Melissa applies this method consistently to support mid-level professionals up to the c-suite to get into Fortune Global 500 organizations and agencies. She studied Psychology at NYU and earned her MBA from the Tuck School of Business at Dartmouth.

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