How to Restart Your Meditation Practice After Becoming A Mom, Episode 168
How to restart your meditation practice now as a new mom or mom to school-age kids (be sure to sign-up for a LIVE and FREE mom-friendly meditation session too!)
This is episode 168. I’m your host Melissa Llarena. Last week I participated in a 6-day silent retreat at home. My three sons are 9,9, and 11. I am also married. I’ll let you in on my inner thoughts during that time when all I could do was write post-its to communicate with the world. I want to also let you off the hook my fellow mom who doesn’t have a meditation pillow, time to think on her toilet alone, or a clue how to stay put for 45-minutes without falling asleep. My focus in this snack bite episode will be on one new mom who also participated in this silent retreat and what I heard from someone who once did have all of that stuff and time to meditate like a well-rested 20-year old goddess.
-I felt embarrassed telling people I was doing a silent meditation – trader joe’s
-I felt like I had to cover my ass and tell them I was still doing mom things – responded to my beta readers….it was not a vacation
-I felt like I was going against the narrative that as a mom to three, I should be knee-deep in dirty laundry + it should be impossible for me to have zen moments but the truth is
I wasn’t the only mom with kids in her area on that silent retreat
Let’s pull out one very specific example
1) There was a sleepless new mom with a baby…she wanted to know if she was doing it right or what to do….in that Zombie state
2) Then there’s that former 20-year-old…she hadn’t considered that the bar was too freakin high. You could meditate in a shower. You can meditate at the supermarket. You can meditate with your babies in their bedrooms.
So here is a specific action step you can take today to start realizing the benefits of meditating as a mom….
-Lower the standard of what meditating should or must look like
-Find a way to introduce a heightened sense of awareness to an everyday activity that you do right now
-Brushing your teeth
Use that slice of time to pay attention to your breathe OR Use that time to tell yourself something you wish the world would be telling you…as a new mom….such as You got this. You are doing a great job.
Now, I want to invite you to DOWNLOAD 12 easy and proven meditation prompts today. I wrote out the ones that have gotten me through my motherhood journey thus far. You will also have an opportunity to join me and other new moms on a free meditation experience on Sunday, March 26th, at 8 am CST. You can sign-up for the free prompts and join me LIVE on March 26th for one-hour (babies can come) to learn more about creating a ritual that fits your mom needs and schedule. Sign-up today and instantly grab my meditation prompts to get centered in two-minutes or fewer flat!
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Kuniatsu “Coonie” Suzuki, Buddhist Monk, Talks About Meditation, His Buddhist Teachings, and Building Courage, Episode 26
20-Minute Heart-Centered Meditation For Moms Experiencing A Holiday Shitstorm
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